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DEAR badass 20-something,

You’re not behind.

You’re not the one secretly messed up person while everyone else succeeds wildly at this whole ‘being an adult’ thing.

You’re actually right on time — and I know it can be SO hard to believe when you’re told a toxic, one-size-fits all story of ‘adulthood’.

Want to figure out what to do with your life while the world is on fire? And actually enjoy adulthood? And not feel like you’ve got to secretly numb your sensitivity and ‘too muchness’? And like your inner sh*t from your teen years keeps coming back up? And find your place, your people and your purpose?

You’re in the right place. Keep reading. I got you. I’m so excited you’re here.

👋🏻 I’m Eliza [she/they] — I’m a mentor AKA a professional big sister — it’s a little bit like a therapist, but with a more personal twist.

I help 20-somethings trust themselves, become real ass adults (however they define it), and feel more confident being their real selves.

Love,

Eliza (the new mentor you didn’t know you needed yet)

Let’s get real about it, huh?

College was never going to save you + make you a real adult.

But we’re all told to wait until 18 (at least here in the U.S.) and then we’ll be ‘grown up’ — and we’ll suddenly KNOW EVERYTHING ABOUT LIFE AND FEEL GREAT (cut to: you realize you’re still just you… but now you at age 18 — oops).

It’s how you live your life that makes you a real adult.

It’s how your life changes you that makes you a real a$$ adult (yes: both the little heartbreaks and the big joys, the twists of fate and the monumental decisions you make).

It’s the support you have that makes it all easier.

Real talk: you’re a pretty magical human (I believe that if you’re HERE asking these questions).

And there are a lot of things in your life that are really, pretty great.

But… there’s that thing (or things) that you wish were a little (or a lot) better.

It could be the friendship stuff, or the dating and sex stuff, or the anxiety and stress stuff, or the hot mess of family stuff, or the bad periods stuff, or the body image and food stuff, or the feelings stuff… or, or, or… a combo of ALL the things that it is to be alive AND have the world be on fire AND be a badass young adult raised as a girl.

It’s a lot, right?

Being YOU — the real you — in a world that often tells us to fit in, get it perfect the first time, and just be nice… is F’ing exhausting.

So when you think forward to this next chapter of your life…

…it brings up some feelings…

— maybe you feel really excited

— maybe you feel kinda nervous/terrified you’re gonna make a mess of it (or you already are)

— maybe you feel chaotic and foggy and lost — like you don’t really know which direction to go

— maybe pain from the past (childhood or teen stuff) is resurfacing in a really painful and scary way when you really want to just be getting a fresh start

— maybe you feel full of hopeful, big dreams and then your practical lived life looks like a big old WHOMP of nothing… and you wonder if you’re crazy

— or something else.

Whichever way you’re feeling… one thing is true: you dream of this year maybe being… well, AMAZING. That when you look back in time (like 5, 10, 50 years from now)… the end of 2025 is where you began to show up as more of yourself.

You want to feel more confident being the real (imperfect) YOU.

this is my dream for you…

And I want to invite you to try it on with me for a sec. Ya ready?

What if… this year things go a little differently in your life (and I mean THEY GO REALLY AMAZING). I don’t mean everything goes easy and ‘perfect’ for you — I mean that whatever comes (cause that’s life sometimes), you’ve got the tools and support to handle it. You’re reaching out for (and actually receiving) support in a new way. You’ve got your own back in a new way. You feel clear, you feel alive, you feel present.

You feel the relief (and joy) of being more of the real YOU.

You feel like a skin-deep belonging with your soulmate level friends — like you can be however you actually are… feisty, weird, depressed, giddy, joyful, sad… and you’re not too much. You’re saying no to the friends who are a bummer — and steering clear of red flags for once (woot woot).

You’re having epic sex with the people you actually want in your bed.

You’re not numbing out to the pain of the world, but you’re not wallowing in it either — and getting stuck there in your privilege shame — you actually feel useful and grounded in your role right now as the world falls apart (and is remade).

You take time off to rest, and you… actually feel recharged and better afterwards (not just a doom scroll and get high, ha).

Family stuff is better than it’s ever been… because this time you’ve got your own back.

Decisions (even the big ones) are wayyyyyy easier to make, because you’re in your center (and you feel like you know what that actually feels like for the FIRST time). You’re making your own decisions, not just de facto copying the person next to you because they seem to be having a good enough time?!

Or whatever your version is — the dream you had about that one (or more…) things not feeling so hard in your life… it’s actually happened. You’re here. You’re you. You’re kinder to yourself.

— my job is to be the big sister in your corner where you know that no question/feeling/experience could ever be too ‘weird’ — and you finally feel like you have a soft place to land that isn’t your family or your friends or a tuned out therapist.

Know you want to hop in with me? ⤵️

What do we talk about in sessions?

Well, the great news is that each time… it’s up to you!

I’ve been doing this for almost 20 years — and there’s nothing that’s weird or uncomfortable or ‘too much’ for me — I’m here for that real REAL talk. One session we might talk about friend drama, that new type of ice cream you tried out, take a detour into unpacking diet culture, revisit the body affirmations we tried out last session, and end with dreaming about what a magical weekend you’re going to have. Another session we might spend most of it practicing tools for coping with stress and anxiety about real world events.

Some mentees come in with clear goals and agendas for our calls (i.e. ‘this is what I want to talk about, Eliza!!’), and some mentees know they want a supportive space and then together we see what comes up — month after month.

Wanna hear some of my specific areas of expertise?

• anxiety, stress, and overwhelm

• body image and healing from diet culture

• sex positivity and living a pleasure-filled life

• queer self-love

• how to make your period not suck

• going from friend drama to nourishing belonging in your community

• healing your inner teen stuff from the past

• navigating your own complex feelings / sensitivity

• purpose, privilege and finding your job/role right now

• coming out as a witchy magical person more and more, and developing your skills

• self-trust, confidence, and feeling like a badass

• and so much more (ask me about it on our call!)

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a note on eliza’s schedule availability:

eliza does 1:1 sessions 2-3 days a week between 10am and 4pm EST (Mon-Fri), with some flexibility as to the best day of the week for you.

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what’s included in 1:1 mentoring?

my primary approach is to give you 6 months of support — not just a few weeks of it — i’ve found that this is where deep transformation happens —

• Twelve 1:1 50 minute sessions with Eliza on Zoom (two a month), that you schedule based on our mutual availability (I work Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays from 10-2pm EST)

• 1:1 text and audio support with Eliza in between calls (mentee can message Eliza whenever, Eliza responds weekly during ‘mentor office hours’)

• Assigned supportive resources from Eliza may include (but not limited to): journaling prompts, videos, books, podcast episodes, home practices, etc. decided with the mentee (based on their learning style)

Who is 1:1 mentoring for?

mentees who are a great fit for 1:1 support often find that:

• You want a big sister in your back pocket that’s not family or a friend your age… or a therapist you don’t know anything about… someone who gets it and there’s no ‘weird’ questions to ask

• You love the idea of a few video calls a month and texting/audio support :) you’re like… bring on the support puhlease that I can access online from anywhere

• You want to show up for yourself and create a positive change in your life

• You feel comfortable bringing your own goals, intentions and questions to Eliza so that you can co-create the sessions together (!!)

• You want to keep exploring these topics outside of your sessions with Eliza and you’re excited to dive into whatever practices you and Eliza together decide would be a great fit for you

• You or your supportive network are able to pay for the mentoring support with ease

• If you (the participant) are struggling a lot (and aren’t we all sometimes, hello to being human), you’ve got a wonderful support system outside of this mentorship program (for example: a therapist or counselor you love) and this mentorship is one wonderful part of your support system

• You’re a teeny bit (or a lot a bit) MAGICAL — and you don’t want to hide it anymore!! Maybe that’s oracle cards? Or talking to trees? Or dreaming of moon circles with friends? Or going to herbalism school one day? Whatever it is — the ‘woo woo’ world is your world (secretly or openly)

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The Investment

Pay-in-full: $4800

[or]

Payment plan: $800 x 6 months

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*please note that 1:1 mentorship happens over 6 months however extended payment plans may be available upon request

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FAQ:

• What gender identities do you work with? Women? Men? Non-binary and gender expansive folks?

I work with all gender identities — and my clients are folks socialized as girls, or assigned female at birth. My own experience and the core of my trainings mean that’s what most alive for me and what I’m best suited to support is folks for whom the experience of ‘girlhood’ had a profound impact on their childhood and teenage years.

• What ages do you mentor? How old do you have to be (or young)?

I mentor young adults age 18-25ish.

• Do you offer payment plans?

Yes. 6 months and 12 months.

• Can I add in additional 1:1 calls to my mentoring package?

I do a minimum of 2 1:1 calls a month, and sometimes meet weekly with folks if it’s the right fit — we can talk about it on our exploratory call.

• I’m a parent of a young adult and I want them to work with you — but I’m not sure they’d be into it… what do I do?

Oh hi, wonderful parent, this is SO common! Most people don't really know how to conceive of a ‘professional big sister’ — since it’s so different from other forms of mental health support they may be aware of. Layer that on with — sometimes a suggestion from a well-intentioned parent doesn’t always go smoothly! My nudge: schedule an exploratory call solo, and I’ll coach you in how to bring it up with your young adult — then… they can schedule their own call with me if they want.

• What’s your refund policy?

Due to the limited space and delivery nature of the program, there are no refunds. In extenuating circumstances, we may be able to offer program credit.

more about eliza

Eliza [she/they] is a best-selling author, speaker, workshop facilitator, and professional big sister who keeps it real. Since the age of 15 she’s been teaching at workshop centers and conferences (like the Omega Institute, Esalen Institute, Kripalu Center, and the Emerging Women Conference) alongside leaders 4 times her age. She’s the co-author of the best-selling book with her mom, “Mothering & Daughtering: Keeping Your Bond Strong Through the Teen Years” (she wrote the sassy side for teen girls).

Eliza was trained as a Peer Educator for Planned Parenthood in High School, was a consultant for Eve Ensler, (“Vagina Monologues,”) on her book for teenage girls: “I Am an Emotional Creature” (so you could say she specializes in making awkward & important topics cool & normal), and is the founder of Badass Girls — which provides experiences of belonging and mentorship for preteens and teens socialized as girls who want to trust themselves.

Eliza graduated from Brown University with an undergraduate degree in Gender & Sexuality Studies, and is a certified a Qoya movement teacher. Her deepest pride is her relationship with her self, especially her tender friendship with her own anxiety. She lives with her partner and toddler in Vermont.

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