BADASS GIRLS
the School of radical belonging
with Lily kafka 🌱🌟💗
october 2025 — june 2026
“BADASS”
adj. 1. fearless, authentic, and compassionate, Urban Dictionary
Dear badass teen,
(and welcome to the adult(s) who love a badass teen socialized as a girl) —
I’m Lily, and I’m so honored you’re here.
me, happy and squinting from the sun :)
SO LET’S BE REAL…
You’re pretty awesome. Your life is actually pretty great in a lot of ways (or at least some ways), and yet… there’s those things that you wish were a little (or a lot) better. It could be the friendship stuff, or the crushes/dating stuff, or the anxiety stuff, or or the family stuff, or the period stuff, or the body feelings stuff, or the sex stuff, or the school stress stuff, or the transitions stuff (got some big life changes??), or the feelings stuff… or, or, or… a combo of ALL the things that it is to be alive AND be a teen socialized as a girl.
It’s a lot, right?
Being YOU — the real you — in a world that often tells us to fit in, stay quiet, and be nice.
So when you think forward to this whole new year (and yeah, I’m kinda talking about Fall 2025 as the start to a new year… cause it kinda is, right?), it brings up some feelings… maybe you feel really excited about the new semester (!!), maybe you feel kinda nervous, maybe you’re actually dreading it with every fiber of your being (or maybe you’re homeschool/unschooled and you’re on a different kind of adventure).
Whichever way you’re feeling… one thing is true: you dream of this year maybe being… AMAZING. That when you look back in time (like 5, 10, 50 years from now)… 2025/2026 is the year where you began to show up as more of yourself.
You want to feel more confident being the real (imperfect) YOU.
so, i’ve got a dream for you…
And I want to invite you to try it on with me for a sec. Ya ready?
What if… this year things go a little differently in your life (and I mean THEY GO REALLY AMAZING). I don’t mean everything goes easy and ‘perfect’ for you — I mean that whatever comes (cause that’s life sometimes), you’ve got the tools and support to handle it. You’re reaching out for (and actually receiving) support in a new way. You’ve got your own back in a new way. You feel clear, you feel alive, you feel present.
You feel the relief (and joy) of being more of the real YOU.
Fast forward to June 2026 (yes, all the way forward)… and you’ve got a circle of badass new besties, plus a big-hearted big sister (ahem that’s ME!!) on speed dial.
You’ve got this group of real, kind, open, supportive humans who have your back. You have a place where you can talk about what’s really going on in your life (and listen to amazing humans talking about their teen lives). We’ve laughed until our sides hurt, and maybe cried a lil’ bit too (maybe both at the same time??). We’ve messaged each other like a million goofy links, and had real talk about all the things.
More than that, you’re actually taking this (BADASS YOU!) into your day-to-day life, because you’ve got the sustained support to make it real. The dream you had about that one (or more…) things not feeling so hard in your life… it’s actually happened. You’re here. You’re you. You’re kinder to yourself.
you’ve got a big sister in your back pocket…
… where literally no question is ever weird, dumb, or gross.
Where else you gonna ask the burning Qs that feel too awkward for parents, too confusing for friends, and too embarassing for a school counselor?
Please don’t tell me a Google search.
💗🔥🦄
So…
If this sounds super good to you… I want to invite you to join me for an online mentorship circle with a group of other badass teens socialized as girls!!!!!!!
It’s gonna be… the kinda support you didn’t think was possible. Like…we’re talking about a dream-come-true kinda feeling. Where you finally feel safe + brave enough to relish in the magic of who you actually are, AND to be radically loved for it.
I’d be delighted to have you be part of the circle ;)
Ready to chat with me about it?
(Yeah, that’s the eventual next step if you’re super interested :))!! ⤵️
Or keep on reading to learn more about the program details.
this program is all about a ‘buffet style’ approach to learning —
🍦🍣🍭🥟
it’s not about doing everything perfectly — oh hell no —
it’s about YOU get curious about (and eventually learning) what actually nourishes you every month — because deserve attuned support. Is it live calls? Group chats? Mentor support? The best book recs? You name it, we probably got it.
“Mentoring with Lily is where I can show up and be myself - however I literally am. It’s magical”
- Eloise, age 13
What’s included in the teen mentorship circle:
18 (1.5 hour) group video calls facilitated by Lily (2 calls a month) ✌🏼
9 1:1 mentorship video calls with Lily (one each month)
1:1 support with Lily on Signal (audio and text messages), Lily answers all messages during ‘mentor hours’
Safe, moderated, private (optional) online group chat on Signal with the whole Mentorship Circle + mentor for connection, sharing, and inspiration
9 monthly themes (AKA topics) we explore together (see more below)
9 parent newsletters (including brief audios from Lily) all about the circle’s journey including fun updates (while honoring circle confidentiality) and parenting/adult resources for your own journey
“Being mentored by Lily is like taking a deep breath in my life. I get to share anything with her and not feel judged. I’m so grateful for her.”
— Gia, age 15
what is it actually like in a mentorship circle?
here’s (anonymously) what teens in past circles have experienced:
(yeah, everyone goes on a unique, personal journey — so I like giving you a frame of reference)
went from body image/weight obsession, to a nourishing, open friendship with her body
had the space and inspiration to explore gender feelings
experienced massive creative inspiration & productivity, got out of a years-long creative block, and wrote/produced the biggest creative work of her/their life thus far
felt belonging with girls for the first time (and has a group chat of girls all over to prove it)
cried for the first time in 3 years, and actually didn’t hate it (it was awesome, and she felt better afterwards)
communicated with parents in a new way (good-bye communicating like a little kid)… about that BIG thing that was really scary to talk about, and it went great — and they’re actually on board to support with next steps
deleted Instagram (not because her parent said so) and watched her mental health skyrocket (now takes self-initiated phone-breaks every month for a week)
got clarity around which friendships are actually supportive, which are draining, and took radical (and kind) action to ONLY stay in friendships that feel safe, trusting, balanced, and fun :)
built an epic behavioral toolkit for getting centered when anxiety shows up (doesn’t mean they don’t get anxious anymore, but when they do — they know what to do)
went into nature almost everyday (and it felt great)
figured out what ‘self-care’ actually means, and began to show up for herself for real (had her own back for the first time)
started sleeping well, finally
broke up with her boyfriend (amicably), and got to know herself better
started dating an amazing human (after a few years of not so great ones)
and… more, more, more
“With my circle, I finally feel like I can talk to people who see the real me. Now, I feel more confident finding friendships that feel like that.”
— Elspeth, age 12
What do we talk about when we’re in circle ?
Every month of our program, we have a theme that we explore together. It’s our lens for the month, our invitation to go deeper together, our spark, our open query, and our road map.
Do we also talk about other things??? You bet. We also talk all month about whatever is real and up for you (and the group). Someone feeling the friend drama? We’re gonna talk about it. The body image meanies in their own head? Yeah, we’re gonna go there. Random/amazing sex ed question? We’re all about it. You get the vibe? We’re real together.
Now… introducing our monthly themes:
october: Badass You ❤️
We're talking everything that gets in the way of us feeling like we belong, and the surprising difference between 'fitting in' and ‘belonging’ (hint: it has to do with amping up the volume on the wonderful weirdness that makes you... well, you). We're talking what 'sisterhood' really means and practicing discernment so we can create safer/braver spaces, communities, and friendships for ourselves (this includes speaking up and getting out of interactions that don't work for us, and don't make us feel safe). Bottom line: how would your life be different if you belonged TO YOURSELF? If you had your own back? We dive in to figuring it out together (and making it more real in our actual lives).
November: Badass Feelings 😫😜🤬😍😭
It's time to make friends with the complex feels that flow through our bodies and brains every day. So many of us are taught (implicitly or explicitly) that some feelings are ‘negative’ and some are ‘positive’ — we’re exploring the radical concept that ‘all feelings are good feelings’ — it’s all about having a healthy relationship with them. We've all got a center: a rooted place we can return to within ourselves — where we trust ourselves even when life feels stormy. When we're experiencing anxiety, stress, hormonal intensity, or a ride on the emotional roller coaster called life we can get a little bit un-centered. It's time to up our skills to come back to center again and again, and feel strong in relating to ALL the feels. This is badass teen magic.
December: Badass Confidence ⛔️🔥🦋
It’s getting cozy, cold and dark outside — finals are on for a lot of folks — and it might be on of those times where you’re feeling grateful that you have a circle to fall back into when stuff gets a little busy, stressful or hard (which it does sometimes). We’re talking coming home to ourselves, faux confidence, how to stop comparing yourself to others (and stay in your own lane and be awesome), boundaries for people pleasing, tools for navigating big and small change in our lives, dismantling internalized supremacy culture, getting rid of gendered labels, and celebrating our unique whole, imperfect, magical selves more and more. If you’ve ever wondered ‘what is confidence really’ or wanted to have more of ‘it’ — this month’s theme is for YOU.
January: Badass Periods 🩸 🌘 🌔 🗓
Have you ever heard a "joke" about how people who menstruate are "crazy"? Did it happen to allude (not so subtly) to the fact that it might have something to do with their menstrual cycle? We often receive the message that people who menstruate are 'unpredictable' and 'blow hot and cold.' On top of that, female-bodied folks can often experience (if you've got your period) that a cycle of menstrual hormones and physical symptoms can be... a real rocky ride. We're diving into why female-bodied folks are actually incredibly predictable (hint: we operate on a 28ish day hormone cycle not a 1 day hormone cycle like testosterone-dominant bodies), and how to care for yourself so that your period is actually easy, breezy (yup). We're tackling cyclical living, starting fresh, receiving the good, letting go, and resting like the magical being you are. Yes, I said YOU MAGIC. Side note: you do not have to have your period for this month to be applicable; we're talking about cycles of all kinds. A bonus of this month’s theme? Learn to manage your time & energy like a badass boss of productivity (rather than fighting your cycle).
February: Badass Body Love 💗❤️🔥🫀🦄
Our bodies are the home we get for our whole lives, right? But often, we push them to capacity with stress, judgement (about how they're not quite 'right'), lack of sleep, and not quite knowing how to care for 'em (I get it, it's a little difficult). Then layer in the whole thing of interacting with other people (be it a friend who wants a hug, an uncle who still wants to pat you on the head every holiday, or a partner who you want to get a little sexy with) and it can get even more complex! Bodies are private space and yet they’re often treated like ‘public space’ — anyone and everyone can comment (and it’s 99% based on their own projections). We’re diving into topics like toxic diet culture, intuitive eating, toxic exercise culture, why body image lives in our heads, how to get free, embodiment and so many other amazing unlearning/remembering things. If you want to have an epic friendship or love affair with your body — this month is for YOU. All bodies are good bodies — let’s learn how to practice that together.
March: Badass Sex Ed 🌸🛁🕯🤓
Your body has a voice though, if you know how to listen to it. Sometimes it's quiet, sometimes it's loud, and often it speaks in ways we've forgotten how to understand. Here's some great news though: while we may experience discomfort or pain in the body, we also have a capacity for massive amounts of joy and sensually positive experiences (let's figure out how to tap into that). Did you know that in many countries it’s totally normally for kids to have great sex ed classes in school from kindergarten all the way through high school? And that statistically it’s correlated with safer, consensual and enjoyable experiences for everyone involved? Yup. WELCOME TO THE MOST AMAZING LEAST AWKWARD SEX ED CLASS TAUGHT BY YOUR BADASS SISTER (where literally nothing is weird ever). We're tackling knowing your no, knowing your yes, feeling like your body is yours (rather than what other people expect your body to look like, behave like, or be like), why female body anatomy is so cool 101, sex ed myth busters, why pleasure isn’t just about sex, and so much more. It’s time for conversations like this to feel more normal and easy.
April: Badass Relationships 🤝🤘💬🗣
Get ready for everyone’s favorite topic (literally so important)… relating to other humans!! We’re talking dating, crushes, friendships, family, mentors, teachers… etc. etc. etc. So many folks socialized as girls are taught to prioritize others’ feelings and needs over their own in relationship — and yet that can set up some pretty unhealthy relationship dynamics. What does it take to build a non-toxic friend community that actually has your back (we’re practicing it together)? How do you navigate a hard friend break up? What about communicating your actual needs with someone? And what is a crush actually? And when do you know you want to date them? And how do you communicate with parental units in a way where they actually hear you? If it helps you with relating well — we’re going there together this month.
May: Badass Expression 🎨🌻💅💭
You've got a voice. Do you use it? How often do you tamp it down, say it nicer, or go quiet so that you won't offend someone? We live in a culture that often teaches people socialized as girl to please people over listening to themselves. Let's investigate that, huh? We're tackling expression, wild instinct, art, getting dressed in clothes that feel true to you, gender feelings, and what it takes to move your feeling into action (and not let it get stuck in your throat). It can be one of the greatest joys in life to express ourselves fully — and this isn’t just for ‘good artists’ or ‘creative people’ or whatever (we’ll be unpacking that). What form of expression feels good to you? It’s turns out expression is a practice for self-love and connection.
June: Badass Leadership 💞📣⚡️🌳
Who is a leader? Maybe a leader gets to be someone who cares. Maybe your heart breaks for the world almost daily? Sometimes you feel small? And possibly the definition of ‘good leader’ doesn’t feel like it was built to fit you and your zones of genius? We’re diving into redefining leadership + power (and figuring out your leadership style), trusting what lights you up (and how to feel it), how to start your own business in high school (if that’s your thing), finding your purpose, creating an epic life, and a sustainable path in social justice and activism. Leadership is easier when we do it together. Every day we’re creating with our lives — creating relationships, creating art, creating moments — what’s the life you want to consciously co-create for yourself? We’ll be exploring imperfect, beautiful, messy, real, whole-hearted ways to answer this together in our final month — where it’s not somebody else’s agenda, but about what lights us up in this beautiful, broken open world.
“Before being mentored, I was so tired of having friends who didn’t lift me up. Now, I have a circle in my corner who celebrates me and makes me feel good about myself. Having support like that has changed my life.”
— Eden, age 12
our GROUP CALL schedule*:
*may vary slightly from what’s listed below
Sunday, October 12th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, October 26th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, November 9th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, November 23rd from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, December 7th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, December 21st from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, January 11th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, January 25th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, February 8th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, February 22nd from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, March 8th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, March 22nd from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, April 12th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, April 26th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, May 17th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, May 31st from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, June 14th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Sunday, June 28th from 4:00-5:30pm EST
Lily 1:1 call Availability:
Monday-Friday 5:30-8:30PM EST, and some weekend availability*
*if you have limited availability to schedule with Lily please make that clear in the enrollment process so we can confirm that we have space for you
how do I know if a circle is for me?
teens who are a good fit mostly feel like:
you are ready to show up for yourself and create a positive change
you feel excited to hang out with an awesome group of teen socialized as girls from all over the country!
you looooove the idea of having a badass big sister to message for support or just chat with whenever and ask real questions about life (where nothing is weird or awkward…!)
you’re ready to have some deeper/realer conversations with other people — about stuff like body image, anxiety, stress, feelings, sex ed, friends, dating, family, etc… you name it… we may go there!
meeting people who don’t live where you live — and interacting online — sounds really appealing this year :) bring on the badass friends who live all over and don’t go to school with you!! WOOOO!!!
you really love the idea of having a space to talk about real stuff in your life that isn’t family/school friends/therapy
you’ve checked your schedule and the call calendar will mostly work!
you’ll be between 13 and 16 years old on October 1st, 2025
your parent/guardian(s) feels sooooo great about you having an intentional community of teens your age to gather with, and a mentor to facilitate open real conversations (including talking about: periods, body image, anxiety, gender, sexuality, sexual orientation, pleasure, and sex). your home/family is pro the sex positive family approach, and agrees with the research that shows that the more informed kids are about their bodies, the less shame they experience, and the more discerning choices they make for themselves.
the adults in your life are able to pay for the program with ease
if you (the participant) are struggling (and aren’t we all sometimes, hello to being human), you’ve got a wonderful support system outside of this mentorship program (for example: a therapist or counselor) and this mentorship is one wonderful part of your support system (yay!)
“Having a circe is like having your wildest dreams of non-stop support come true. People listen to me and just get me and love me. If you’re on the fence about being mentored…do it”
— Erika, age 14
A NOTE FOR PARENTS:
Dear person who loves a teen socialized as a girl,
I’m so grateful you’re here.
Seriously, whether your kid is in a Mentorship Circle with me in this season of life or not – I’m so grateful for wise, conscious parents of teens who are showing up for this exciting life phase with courage and curiosity.
For so long in our culture, we’ve approached the teen years as a problem that needs to be fixed – and in turn the teens themselves feel it. I know I did – and even though I had (and have!) a wonderful, loving mama – it wasn’t until I bravely + nervously joined a Mentorship Circle that I had the support I needed to thrive. It takes a village – and that’s why Badass Girls was founded.
As a lead mentor, I get to be a guidepost on your child’s sacred path towards themselves, and into a truer, deeper adulthood - and, supported by a curated group of sensitive + big-hearted younger teens (like seriously, the opposite of toxic mean girl culture). At the core of my practice, is my belief that every mentee is already whole (not broken, a problem or missing something key), and that when given the right nourishment… a teen thrives.
The School of Radical Belonging is about creating a loving and brave environment that allows true growth to happen. I believe in being curious about who your child already is and who they’re becoming.
So often, parents I talk to are exhausted by trying to give their preteen or teen all the ‘right’ and ‘good’ advice – and feeling like mostly they’re not listening the way they used to when they were younger. Tag me in!
The fact is you’re probably giving REALLY good advice, and we’re meant to live in intergenerational villages where big sisters and aunties and cousins are part of the team supporting a young person to bloom. YOU don’t need to do quite so much alone anymore.
I’d be honored to connect with you and learn more about the potential of being on your precious kid’s team this year.
With love,
Lily
SOME Words from parents:
(whose teens were in past mentorship circles with me)
“Lily helped my daughter see that she wasn’t alone in experiencing the whirlwind of emotions and thoughts that come with adolescence. My daughter developed a stronger sense of self, more self-compassion, and the confidence to tackle the inevitable challenges, big or small, that many teenage girls face on the road to adulthood.”
“I love the voice in her ear... the one that has become her own inner voice. I love the pressure it takes off me - that she is getting great messages even if I haven’t managed to have the conversation myself.”
“Mentorship is a safe and important space for my daughter to lean into while she navigates everything a teenager navigates. Now, she knows she’s not alone and has a place to land when things get hard. I swear it’s what saved her this past year.”
“My kid is always so happy when she knows it’s the day she’ll have a call. She knows she’ll be seen, heard, and engaged in a way that feels true to her. Being mentored has brought her the confidence to better know just how incredible she is and to be kind to herself while navigating this tricky world.”
The Investment
Pay-in-full: $2700*
[or]
9 month payment plan: $300 x 9 months
*pay-in-full bonus: 2 additional 1:1 sessions with Lily to use any month there’s availability during the circle ($200 value)
(scholarships may be available - email me at lilzkafka@gmail.com)
❤️❤️❤️
FAQ:
How do I enroll?
Your next step is to sign up for an exploratory call with Lily! This is a chance to ask Lily questions, meet Lily (if you haven’t already!), and for everyone to get a feel for if you’d be a good fit. If Lily feels you would be, she’ll send you an invite to enroll via email after your call. Click here to sign up for an exploratory call with Lily!
How many teens are in the mentorship circle?
I’ll let in somewhere between 8 and 13 younger teens who I personally feel are a superb fit for the community we’re co-creating in the program.
How old do you have to be to join the mentorship circle? How old is too old?
Most participants are between the ages of 13 and 16. I will occasionally let in a slightly older or slightly younger person who is an excellent fit for the group. Think this is you? Reach out to me at lilzkafka@gmail.com.
What if I can’t make it to all of the group calls? Is it worth me joining?
YES! (And, it’s up to you!) It depends on the number of calls you can’t make. Every call is recorded and you have access to the call recording usually the next day. Everyone in our circle usually ends up missing a few calls (cause, life happens)! If you’re gonna miss more than half the calls live, I’d suggest re-looking at your schedule to see if you can make more time available for the circle.
I’m kinda introverted/shy, and sometimes I’m more comfortable listening than speaking in a group… is this program still for me?
YESSSSSSSS. Please bring those kick-ass listening skills to our group! You’re never pressured to share in the circle, or participate in any exercise we do (it’s always optional, you’re the boss of you). Many folks in our group have found that throughout the program they’re more chatty initially in 1:1 calls with me (Lily), or in 1:1 connection with other folks in the circle. All is welcome :)
Are there payment plans available?
Yes, see below.
This sounds really amazing… but also really different from anything I’ve ever done. I feel nervous that it won’t be as good as it sounds… any thoughts?
I get this question quite often! Yes… it’s really this good. If this program is sounding amazing to you, trust it (because it actually really won’t sound amazing to everyone!). One thing I try to remember is that sometimes nervousness is just excitement without the breath. Take a deep breath… are you feeling really excited about the potential of joining this circle? Then yes, it’s gonna be great.
Got another question that wasn’t answered on this page? Read it through again to make sure… 😉 and then email me at lilzkafka@gmail.com.
The Investment
Pay-in-full: $2700*
[or]
9 month payment plan: $300 x 9 months
*pay-in-full bonus: 2 additional 1:1 sessions with Lily to use any month there’s availability during the circle ($200 value)
(scholarships may be available - email me at lilzkafka@gmail.com)
❤️❤️❤️
“It feels so important to have a mentor who’s there for me during the good times AND the hard times. And, we just have so much fun together!”
— Nova, age 11
more about Lily
Lily [she/they] is a Certified Badass Girls Mentor, a period nerd, and a forever student of belonging. She began her journey with Eliza at Mothering & Daughtering as a teenager, first as a participant in the workshops with her mom, and then as a M&D assistant. Lily was then the first Badass Girls mentee, the first Badass Girls assistant, and the first Certified Badass Girls Mentor with almost a decade of facilitation experience now under her belt in her early 20s (when you know, you know).
Lily graduated from Skidmore College with a degree in Sociology. She has worked as a co-teacher for Wise Bodies, leading workshops on pleasure activism, and was a community organizer and activist at her college.
More than anything Lily loves being out in nature – and you’ll likely find her talking to a plant, growing food, or studying up for her next herbalism school class.
The Investment
Pay-in-full: $2700*
[or]
9 month payment plan: $300 x 9 months
*pay-in-full bonus: 2 additional 1:1 sessions with Lily to use any month there’s availability during the circle ($200 value)
(scholarships may be available - email me at lilzkafka@gmail.com)
❤️❤️❤️
I’m so excited to circle up for an epic + life-changing 9-month journey together to finally feel at home in ourselves and with eachother.
Love,
Lily
Interested in other offerings by Lily?
Aside from the School of Radical Belonging, you can find me in my 1:1 Mentor Program, or leading workshops throughout the year on self-trust, periods/cycle literacy, and more! If you want to be up to date on upcoming offerings and events led by me, click here to join my email list: